By Patty Zimmerman
Having 4 children of my own motivating them has been a real challenge. My boys are totally opposite. One loves to read and has always been motivated to do well in school. He is now a sophomore at
Do you find it difficult to motivate your children?
Tip: Finding the right incentive for your child can motivate him to get started and put out effort on tasks he isn’t so excited about doing.
There are a host of chores, tasks, school work and other things we want children to do. The trouble is they’re often not so excited about school work, taking out the garbage or cleaning their rooms. What can we parents do to motivate our children to succeed at these worthy tasks? Managers need to motivate their staff just as we need to motivate our children. At work, your staff knows they need to put in some effort if they want to keep their jobs. At home, our children have no such incentive. You can’t fire them and they know it.
Tools: Finding the right incentive for your child. Every child is different and what will matter to one will not necessarily work to encourage the next child. The key is finding the right incentive. My 17 year old daughter has a cell phone and text messaging and when she lacks the right attitude in the home or bad grades she knows the text messaging goes first, then the phone. I love having this tool!! Now, the 11 year old also has a cell phone and if I attempt to take it away he could care less, so I have to take away TV time, junk food or play time. I am sure as he gets older taking the cell phone away will work for him also. The key is finding the right incentive.
If you have a child who is eager for parental approval, congratulations. This type of child will often put in great effort just to please you. The key is to be encouraging and comment often on their progress.
–Money (touchy subject) but it works. Many children respond well to money and I give my children $10.00 for every A on their report card and $5.00 for every B. I will give money for some chores, but not all. Be creative on how to use money to motivate your children.
Business people are often motivated by a promotion. Your child may also be motivated by the status he attains in his sphere of friends by having cool clothes, current music cd’s , Ipod, video games or whatever else he and his friends long for. These are the incentives to offer in recognition of good grades.
Motivating your children is critical for their success in all areas of life.